The Soul of Success: Why Your Goals Need More Than Just Ambition
Most of us have been taught that achieving a goal is about "the hustle"—pushing harder, sleeping less, and forcing outcomes. But have you ever noticed that you can achieve a massive milestone and still feel empty? Or perhaps you find yourself setting the same resolutions year after year, only to lose steam by February.
The reason most people struggle to create the life they want isn't a lack of effort. It’s because they are setting goals based on habit, external pressure, or a sense of "should". To create a life that actually feels good, we have to move from surface-level striving to Goal Alignment.
Desire: The Spiritual Essence of Growth
We often treat "desire" as something to be controlled or even ignored. However, in the realm of Emotional Alchemy, your desires are actually soul-level instructions.
Signposts for Potential: Every pull you feel toward something greater isn't random. Your desires are signposts guiding you toward your highest potential.
Inner Guidance: When you clear the static of self-abandonment and external expectations, your true desires come into focus. They were never missing; they were just buried.
Evidence of Alignment: Desire is evidence that there is already a version of you living that reality. It is not about getting something; it is about tuning yourself to the frequency where that desire already exists.
Why We Get Stuck: The Avoidance Loop
Many people fail to reach their goals because they spend most of their energy fixated on what they are trying to avoid: failure, rejection, or lack.
As we discussed in our post on affirmations, where your attention goes, your energy flows. When your mind stays locked on what’s wrong, your nervous system stays wired for survival. You end up looping through old patterns, reinforcing the very cycles you’re trying to escape. The shift begins when you stop outrunning discomfort and start listening to your intuition. Your intuition speaks through sensations and subtle nudges, but it's often blocked by numbing or bypassing.
The Life Wheel: Assessing Your Current Alignment
Before you set your next goal, you must have a clear picture of where you are right now. Real fulfillment comes from balance, not just winning in one isolated area. The Life Wheel is a tool to help you zoom out and reflect on eight key areas:
Finance: Stability and habits.
Health: Physical and mental well-being.
Social Life: Connections and belonging.
Personal Growth: Mindset and learning.
Partnership: Family and intimacy.
Career: Purpose and passion.
Spirituality: Connection to Source and inner peace.
Leisure: Play and creativity.
By rating these areas from 1 (needs improvement) to 10 (thriving), you can see where you’ve been neglecting yourself… without guilt, but with curiosity.
5 Steps to Aligned Action
To bring your desires into reality, you must align your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Clarity: What do you want? Get specific.
Intention: Why do you want it? This is the soul behind the goal.
Attention: Where is your focus? Focus on becoming vibrant and present rather than focusing on how tired you are.
Emotion: How do you want to feel? Don’t wait until you achieve the goal… feel the abundance or security now.
Action: What is one small step you can take today that matches the future you are building?.
➡️ Ready for Deeper Transformation?
If you are committed to achieving profound emotional and spiritual growth, here are the next steps to continue your journey:
Click the link below to purchase a copy of my book, Bent Not Broken: A Journey Through Transformation, on Amazon.
Click the downloadable PDF Goals & Desires Resource for your free copy of [Chapter: Goals & Desires from Bent not broken: a journey through transformation]. This handout includes the Life Wheel assessment and the step-by-step alignment guide to turn your wishes into reality. [Goals & Desires Resource PDF Here]